Finding Joy and Purpose with Mark Feldmeir

On the latest episode of the “To Be and Do” podcast, host Philip Amerson sits down with Mark Feldmeier, lead pastor at St. Andrew United Methodist Church in Highlands Ranch, Colorado, and author of “Life After God: Finding Faith When You Can’t Believe Anymore.” This thoughtful and inspiring conversation revolves around what brings true joy, the endurance of purpose, and the role of faith, poetry, and meaningful reminders in a purposeful life.

Below, I’ll share a summary of the episode and highlight three key takeaways that are relevant not only to leaders and faith communities, but to anyone seeking deeper fulfillment in today’s complicated world.

Episode Summary

The episode opens with Philip Amerson recounting experiences from Indiana University, where he found a powerful conversation-starter simply by asking: “What brings you joy?” This question sets the tone for a deep exploration, as Mark Feldmeier breaks down the difference between fleeting happiness and enduring joy. Through personal stories—like leading youth on a mission trip where outcomes were far from perfect but resulting in that “good tired”—Mark Feldmeier demonstrates how real joy comes from connecting one’s calling with the world’s needs.

The conversation weaves through topics of resilience, the transformative power of service, the grounding influence of reading and poetry, and the value of keeping meaningful reminders close at hand. Mark Feldmeier shares how he stays anchored, recalling mementos from his spiritual journey, and the episode closes on the hopeful note that the journey itself matters as much as any destination.

Key Takeaways

1. Joy Is Found in Purpose, Not Circumstance

Mark Feldmeier draws a critical distinction between happiness—which is fleeting and circumstantial—and joy, which endures, even in challenge or hardship. He describes how joy emerges when his vocation intersects with a meaningful need in the world. Whether enduring the messiness of a mission trip or pushing through the exhaustion of leadership, having something worthwhile to strive for fuels a joy that isn’t easily depleted. The phrase “tired but not depleted” captures this energy—joy that fills us up, even when the work is hard.

2. Growth Requires “Thinking Big”—and Reading Widely

The conversation touches on how big, audacious goals and lifelong learning keep us moving forward. Philip Amerson shares a favorite quote: “If your life’s work can be accomplished in your lifetime, then you’re not thinking big enough.” Mark Feldmeier echoes this by explaining how thoughtful reading shapes his preaching, worldview, and life. He notes a steady diet of theology, poetry, and contemporary social thought, crediting mentors who taught him that great preachers are always great readers first. The episode reminds us that intellectual curiosity and humble ambition go hand in hand.

3. Keep What Grounds You Close—And Pay Attention to the Road Signs

In closing, Mark Feldmeier reflects on two meaningful objects: a labyrinth coaster and a tile from the Camino de Santiago pilgrimage. These daily reminders ground him in the journey, not just the goal. The labyrinth signifies that life is a winding journey of becoming, while the Camino tile symbolizes the importance of taking things one step at a time, trusting the signs along the way. Together, they serve as metaphors for staying oriented and hopeful, even without knowing the full path ahead.

This thoughtful conversation offers powerful truths for anyone feeling the push and pull between joy and exhaustion. It’s a warm reminder that even when the going gets tough, connection, purpose, and mindfulness make all the difference. For more inspiration and reflection, listen in to this episode of “To Be and Do.”

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