Surprise, Friendship, and the Warmth of the Nativity

In the "Because" episode of To Be and Do,  Philip Amerson delivers a heartfelt meditation grounded in memory, friendship, and a beautiful poem about the Nativity. The episode’s tone is gentle and reflective, and through a brief yet profound narrative, Philip Amerson ties his own life experiences to the broader themes of Advent — hope, warmth, and the transformative power of surprise.

Let’s explore three key takeaways from this episode:

1. The Enduring Power of Surprise

The episode opens with an invitation to recall a moment of surprise that “lasted with you for the rest of your life.” Philip Amerson shares his own story of moving to Evansville, Indiana, and, in seeking to know his new neighborhood, he unexpectedly meets Walter Wangerin Jr., who goes on to become a cherished friend and influence. This encounter highlights how simple, intentional acts — venturing out, knocking on a door — can lead to enduring gifts. Philip Amerson reminds us that such surprises are often the seeds of lifelong meaning.

Takeaway: Embrace the unexpected. The most significant moments come when we open ourselves to possibility, especially when we act in faith or to connect with others.

2. Friendship That Transcends Time

A significant portion of the episode centers on Philip Amerson’s friendship with Walter Wangerin Jr., an influential pastor, preacher, and writer. The loss of Walter is still keenly felt, yet his legacy continues through his words and the impact he had on Philip Amerson’s life. In a touching anecdote, Philip Amerson recalls praying each Sunday to “preach the second-best sermon in Evansville” because he knew Walter would always offer the best. This humility and affection showcases the transformative power of true friendship and mentorship.

Takeaway: Cherish the friends and mentors who help shape who you are. Their influence endures, guiding and inspiring long after they’re gone.

3. The Nativity’s Warmth and Humanity

The heart of the episode is the reading of Walter Wangerin Jr’s poem, The Carol of Warm and Cold. The poem paints a vivid, intimate picture of the Nativity, focusing on Mary blowing warmth onto her baby's knuckles, Joseph brightening coals, and the humility of the setting. Philip Amerson frames the story as a tapestry of simple actions — warmth offered in cold, care shared in hardship. It reminds us that even in humble circumstances, acts of love and kindness shine brightest.

Takeaway: The season of Advent and Christmas is less about spectacle and more about small acts of warmth, care, and presence. We are invited to share in that story by paying attention to moments of tenderness amidst the ordinary.

Conclusion

This is a moving meditation, encouraging listeners to seek meaning in surprise, friendship, and the humble warmth of the Christmas story. As Philip Amerson so beautifully expresses, may we all be open to the unexpected gifts that life offers — and, just as importantly, may we offer warmth to others in their time of need.